Carolina Comments: Remembering & Reading

A SONG FOR THAT TIME AND OURS

Peter, Paul and Mary

It is not an understatement to say again that we live in interesting times.  We are about a week away from having the first convicted felon in the White House as president.  Much of the Los Angeles area is being decimated by catastrophic wildfires, and thousands of folks have evacuated from homes that may no longer exist.  Meanwhile, the Midwest and the East have been buffeted by snow and ice and a blast of arctic air reaching into the South.   Even snowfall south of the Mason-Dixon Line!

Peter, Paul and Mary (lmtonline.com)

Peter Yarrow, tenor in the folk trio, Peter, Paul and Mary, died this week at 86.  The group had many hits during the 1960’s and 70’s including Leaving on a Jet Plane and Puff the Magic Dragon, and I was a big fan. Probably their most memorable song and the one that resonates still is the lovely and haunting Blowin’ in the Wind.”  It was composed and recorded by Bob Dylan, but the trio’s recording quickly surpassed his in sales.  You can watch Peter, Paul & Mary sing “Blowin’ in the Wind” in this video from 1963.  Note the words and how the quest for freedom and justice for all remains a work in progress. 

In an interview from two years ago, Peter Yarrow relates that Harry Belafonte invited them to sing at the 1963 March on Washington where Martin Luther King delivered his “I Have a Dream” speech.  Yarrow eloquently expresses what their intent was in singing “Blowin’ in the Wind.”  It was not to entertain but to share something about the times they were living in—before the Civil Rights movement really took hold and before the anti-war (Vietnam War) movement.  R.I.P. Peter Yarrow. (Thanks to Dan Rather for providing the YouTube links in his weekly e-mail letter.)

RECENT READING

Parallel Lives

I Heard Her Call My Name: A Memoir of Transition by Lucy Sante

(wikipedia.com)

Author and Bard College professor Lucy Sante outwardly lived her life for 66 years as Luc Sante.  Inwardly, she led a parallel life as a woman.  When she saw herself pictured as she might look as a woman, she took the plunge and began revealing her “true” female identity to close friends and colleagues. 

Her memoir, I Heard Her Call My Name, is on several best books of the year lists.  Beautifully written, it is both sensitive and direct.  Sante doesn’t stint on the details and experiences of her teens and and through her 20’s.  She consciously performed and presented herself as male, married twice, and partook of drugs and alcohol while exploring and enjoying the bohemian music and arts scene in New York.  When she did transition, she was deeply committed in a long-term relationship with her female partner Eva.  She freely shares her fears and doubts along the way, while at the same time acknowledging how very right this transition was.

Although some readers will be unfamiliar with her literary and other references, her work is a compelling and revealing addition to the literature about gender transitions.  (~JWFarrington)

18th Century Midwife Extraordinaire

The Frozen River by Ariel Lawhon

Ballard (thedailygardener.org)

Martha Ballard was a dedicated midwife living in Hallowell, Maine in the late 18th century.  She would not be known to us today were it not for the handwritten diary she kept.  She made almost daily entries about the weather, where she went, and the babies she was called out to deliver at any hour of the day or night.  As a midwife, she was one of the few, if not the only, woman who could be called on in court to testify to the details of an unmarried woman’s pregnancy and childbirth.  Scholar Laurel Thatcher Ulrich wrote a Pulitzer Prize winning biography of Martha called A Midwife’s Tale.  (I own that work but have not yet read it.)

This novel, Frozen River, is an intimate depiction of a marriage, of childbirth with all its attendant messiness, and of daily family life in wintry Maine when the Kennebec River is iced over.  It is also a murder mystery.  Rebecca Foster claims two men raped her.  When one of the supposed perpetrators is found dead in unusual circumstances, there are numerous court cases, and Martha Ballard and her diary play a role.  

When Ariel Lawhon learned about Martha Ballard, she was motivated to write this novel.  It is one of the best historical fiction works I’ve ever read.  As Lawhon makes clear in her Author’s Note, the events in the novel are inspired by rather than based on Ballard’s life.  She adjusted some dates, invented some situations, and presented Martha as what she thought she would be like as a person.  

I found it totally absorbing and an engaging multi-layered story about the role of women, seeking justice, and New England’s early court system.  Highly recommended!  (~JWFarrington)

READING: WHAT’S NEXT

These titles are on my list waiting to be read.  Watch for comments on them in future blog posts.

The Outcast Dead by Elly Griffiths (Book 6 in the crime series featuring English archaeologist Ruth Galloway)

Grief is for People by Sloane Crosley (a memoir about a close friend’s suicide)

The Wildes by Louis Bayard (historical novel about the family of Oscar Wilde)

Note: Header photo of winter in Wake County, early Jan. 2025, from wral.com.

Carolina Comments: 2024 Favorite Books & More

READING: MY FAVORITE BOOKS OF THE YEAR

On average, I read a book or more a week, a mix of literary fiction, thoughtful nonfiction, and the occasional light stuff.  Here are the twelve books I liked the most this year along with the covers of some of them.

Becoming Madam Secretary by Stephanie Dray (historical novel about Labor Secretary & Mainer Frances Perkins; her homestead in Damariscotta has just been named a national historic landmark)

Challenger by Adam Higginbotham (nonfiction, deconstruction of a space shuttle disaster)

Codename Charming by Lucy Parker (just for fun romance between a body guard & a personal assistant to a royal couple)

The Comfort of Ghosts by Jacqueline Winspear (the last Maisie Dobbs mystery)

Forty Autumns by Nina Willner (family memoir, living on both sides of the Berlin Wall)

A Fever in the Heartland by Timothy Egan (Ku Klux Klan dominance in 1920’s)

Gray Matters by Theodore Schwartz (nonfiction, comprehensive brain anatomy by a neurosurgeon)

James by Percival Everett (re-telling of Huckleberry Finn story from slave Jim’s perspective)

Long Island by Colm Toibin (sequel novel to his Brooklyn)

Lovely One by Ketanji Brown Jackson (memoir by this Supreme Court Justice)

Night Watch by Jayne Anne Phillips (Pulitzer Prize winner, post-Civil War novel)

An Unfinished Love Story by Doris Kearns Goodwin (memoir of her & Dick Goodwin’s involvement in 1960’s national politics with JFK and LBJ)

WATCHING: MOVIES CLASSIC & CONTEMPORARY

White Christmas

In honor of the season and because, surprise, we had never seen the entire film, the Chief Penguin and I watched White Christmas.  Two men and two women, in a break from their usual singing and dancing commitments, take the train from Miami to Vermont to a charming inn to see and enjoy snow.  The inn is being overseen by their retired Army general friend and is suffering from a lack of guests.  Principals Bing Crosby and Danny Kaye, along with Rosemary Clooney and Vera Ellen, decide to bring their entire show to the inn.  

Set in 1954, it’s sentimental, patriotic, and dated, but also fun.  Songs are interspersed throughout with masterful dancing by Danny Kaye and Vera Ellen, and finally, near the end when there’s snow outside, you get to hear “White Christmas” in Bing’s mellow tones.

Anora (Prime Video or Apple TV, $19.99)

Ivan & Ani (phoenixfilmfestival.com)

As my regular readers know, the Chief Penguin and I try each year to see the most noted films and particularly those that have a chance of being nominated for an Oscar.  Anora showed up on a list of five possible nominees and, since it was available online, we watched it.  Not our usual fare, for sure, but worth it for the stellar performance by Mikey Madison as Anora or Ani, as she prefers.  Also of note is Russian actor Mark Aleksandrovich as Ivan.

Ani, a stripper in a gentlemen’s club, lives a hard life in a downtrodden Brooklyn neighborhood. When she engages the attentions of Ivan, son of a Russian oligarch who asks her to be exclusive, she snaps up this chance for the high life.  How this Cinderella tale plays out once Ivan’s family knows about them is action-filled with an ending rife with ambiguity and open to multiple interpretations. The film is billed as a comedy, but I didn’t find it especially funny; expect lots of foul language and sex.

Note: Header photo of bookcases ©JWFarrington (some rights reserved.) Book covers all from Amazon.com except for Lovely One from Random House.

Manhattan Moments: Music & Food

A grand tree in Manhattan

SCHOOL ASSEMBLIES: LOOKING BACK AND FORWARD

Playing and Singing

One of the joys of being grandparents is hearing your granddaughters perform in school assemblies.  Last week, we attended the winter assemblies for both the lower school and middle school classes.  Our older granddaughter is the lone French horn in the middle school orchestra, and it was a pleasure to hear her in a complex piece called Christmas Troika (Sleigh Ride.) She and her classmates also sang carols and popular works such as “Masters in This Hall” and “Let It Snow.” 

The lower school assembly on the following day featured 3rd graders in “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer,” a Hebrew song, and a hilarious rendition of “The Queen of the Night Gets a Cold.”  Adding to the fun is the participation of the Men’s Chorus, fathers of the Brearley girls, in both programs.  After one rehearsal on the day of the event, they join in on some pieces and produced a rollicking “When I’m 64.” 

After, as we awaited our family in the school lobby, we saw and heard Bill Clinton (his granddaughter is a student) getting ready to leave. I was a bit tempted to approach him, but he was already in conversation with someone else. His voice was a bit raspy, but otherwise he looked good.  (This was just before his short stay in the hospital with the flu.)

Girls and Women

The Chief Penguin and I continue to be impressed with the excellent education offered in this all-girls school.  I confess to being initially neutral to skeptical about single sex education in general.  In this environment, I see “our girls” being empowered to order their lives, challenge themselves, and lead with kindness. I almost want to return to school and wish that my school experience had been as stimulating as this one.

In reflecting on the professional roles women have carved out in the past 50 years, I keenly recall when the birth control pill became widely available and when abortion became legal.  And that day when I, well educated and working full time as an academic librarian, could finally get a credit card in my own name without my husband’s signature or financial backing.  Memorable! I promptly signed up for a Macy’s card that was just mine. 

I worry and am concerned that with the incoming administration, people like J.D. Vance and his cronies will try to send women back to the kitchen and the nursery.  I hope I’m proven wrong and that the current opportunities and progress made for women of all ages and interests will endure and be available to today’s girls as they become the women of tomorrow.

DINING AROUND

As usual, the Chief Penguin and I have dined at several of our favorite restaurants this visit including tasty upscale Italian fare at Barbaresco, Canyon Road with classic Margaritas and zippy guacamole, Wa Jeal for a bit of Sichuan cuisine, and consistently good, large portioned, red gravy plus at Tony’s Di Napoli.  We also tried two unfamiliar places and re-visited a lunch place for dinner.

Lungi (1st Avenue & 63rd St.)

The formerly named Imli, which we enjoyed in the past, has rebranded itself as Lungi, and the menu now focuses on South Indian and Sri Lankan dishes.  We and our son and family all had lunch here, and it was delicious.  We opted for a bunch of small plates which included paneer with peppers, tiger shrimp with black pepper, chunks of beef with coconut and spices, and crispy chicken with chili.  We followed those tasty dishes with some filled dosas and two kinds of biryani.  We had plenty to eat.  The Chief Penguin and I vowed to return to try the curries.

Monsieur Bistro (Lexington St., Upper East Side)

For many years, our first dinner upon arrival in New York was at Sel et Poivre.  It was cozy and welcoming, we knew some of the waitstaff, and we had favorites on the menu.  Unfortunately, the menu stagnated, and the restaurant began to feel tired. It closed earlier this year and, under new ownership and some spiffing up of the décor, is now Monsieur Bistro. 

We ate here twice this visit.  The first meal was mixed in terms of what we liked and what we did not care for.   A more recent dinner was particularly good; lamb parmentier for me which was comfort food for a chilly night and a Brussels sprouts salad with a side of smoked salmon for the CP.   We will dine here again on our next visit.

Serafina 79 (Madison Ave., Upper East Side)

Serafina is an extremely popular place and at lunch apt to be crowded with students and their families, especially on days off.  We had eaten here several times, but never for dinner.  The menu includes a wide selection of pizzas, salads, and pasta dishes.  We brought our granddaughters here one night when their parents went out. 

The girls shared a pepperoni pizza while I tried the chicken paillard with arugula, and the CP had porcini ravioli.  The ravioli are made there and were so wonderful he could not stop raving about them!  Serafina has multiple branches across Manhattan, and we’re sure to return for more ravioli.

The most unusual store facade I saw this year!

Note: Header photo of Rockefeller Center tree and other photos by JWFarrington.

Manhattan: Food, Art, & Drama

SPLURGE-WORTHY DINING

The Modern

In a delayed celebration of our anniversary, we dined at The Modern, the restaurant next to the Museum of Modern Art.  With a table by the window, we looked out at MoMA’s sculpture garden and December’s bare trees. Lunch was a three-course prix fixe. Everything was beautifully plated and delicious.  I opted for the cold lobster salad with citrus and burrata followed by sea bass with some agnolotti and then a cheese course. 

The Chief Penguin had hamachi over basil to start and then roast chicken on a sweet potato cake followed an elegant lime parfait.  Service was impeccable, and we enjoyed chatting with our young waitress.  This is a wonderful venue for special occasions!

MATISSE AND MORE

Hanging Out at MoMA

The other morning, we walked down to W. 53rd Street and spent a most pleasant hour exploring several exhibits.  We headed first to the 3rd floor for a look at Matisse’s Cut-Outs: A Celebration, works from late in his career.  These paper cutouts are amazing.  His paper “stained glass” window, Christmas Eve (Nuit de Noel) has vibrant colors, but the glass version he had crafted is most impressive and so luminous. 

Christmas Eve, Matisse, in glass

Also of note are the figures he did for his swimming pool.  Rather than add a swimming pool to his home, he created blue leggy figures and adhered them to a band of paper around the perimeter of his dining room.  The overall effect was feeling like being in the water.

The Swimming Pool, Matisse, 1962
Rothko, No. 16, 1958 (Black, Red, Brown)

Leaving Matisse behind, we looked at some works from the permanent collection from around the world.  I was struck by the muted intensity of Mark Rothko’s No. 16 (Red, Brown, and Black) and by the mysterious figures underlying Blue Composition, c.1966-68, by Ethiopian artist Alexander “Skunder” Boghossian.  There appears to be both a horse and the snout of an alligator or crocodile. 

And No Shade but His Shade by Sudanese artist Ibrahim El-Salahi is a compelling work all in browns including a man’s head with a bird perched on his scalp.

LIVE DRAMA

Left on Tenth (James Earl Jones Theatre)

I read Delia Ephron’s memoir, Left on Tenth, when it came out and was pleased when I saw that she was writing a script and working with Good Wife TV star Julianna Margulies.  The Chief Penguin and I went to the play and enjoyed it immensely.  The cast is small, just four people; Margulies and Peter Gallagher as the leads, two others who play cameo parts, and two dogs.  It is a story of newfound love, but it’s also about serious illness, specifically leukemia.  (A variety of that same disease took the life of Delia’s sister Nora.)

While one might expect this to be a depressing drama, it is not.  Yes, there are sad and tense moments, but there is joy and lightness.  The staging consists of a simple set, minor costume changes, and creative lighting and projection to change the mood or the season.  Margulies carries the work, projecting a full range of emotions, while Peter Francis James in brief roles as a friend, a gruff doctor, and a waiter adds a bit of humor and dance. 

Note: All photos ©JWFarrington (some rights reserved.) Header photo of trees for sale along 3rd Avenue.